Ok fellas, we’ve all been there. Our wife brings us a problem or concern. Maybe it’s about your relationship, maybe not. You can see she is looking for something from you. Like most men, you quickly try to size up the problem, present a solution or two and attempt to move past the issue. You fully expect your response to not only suffice but also reiterate just how wise and caring you are. And to make matters worse, you’ve been down this road before, it didn’t work then, yet you naively... Read More

In marriage, one of the best ways to communicate love to your wife is to listen. Let me say that again husbands...LISTEN. If you are like me, it’s easy to get distracted or simply default to giving short answers or grunts. Wives may not fully understand what a challenge it is to engage in conversation at the end of a day or in some cases, anytime of the day! However; husbands, marriage is a relationship that involves your participation. Wives everywhere live in frustration because they try... Read More

I know I’m not the only one who realizes, usually too late, that I’ve blown it in my marriage. For me it’s usually because of something I said. We highly verbal people find our foot squarely in our mouth sometimes! What failure has happened in your marriage? Where have you blown it? Maybe your failure is allowing your anger to get out of control. Maybe you drink too much. Maybe your wife just discovered porn on your computer…again. Maybe your husband just discovered the old flame you’ve... Read More

Every marriage has problems. Unmet expectations, failed communication and basic differences can cause frustrations. Marriage issues can feel like getting a pebble in your shoe. It doesn’t keep you from living your life, but it’s uncomfortable! Just like taking off your shoe and shaking out the pebble, you do your best to talk through the issue with your spouse. Yet sometimes, no matter how hard you shake your shoe, the pebble never goes away. Sound familiar? It’s not for lack of... Read More

This week I have the privilege of speaking at the National Marriage Ministry Conference hosted by Watermark Community Church in Dallas, TX. In one of my sessions, I'm sharing 20 lessons we've learned after starting an official marriage ministry at Highpoint Church. I hope these encourage leaders across the country as well as our leaders at Highpoint. Enjoy! 1. Start with your strength. For us it was pre-marriage. I had already developed curriculum and it was an easy place to start.... Read More

Not long ago, I received a call from a friend who was seeking advice on how to handle a major failure in his marriage. This is not one of those dumb decisions that just goes away with a little sweet talk and time. No, this was a serious breach of trust in his marriage. As he told me what happened he included these words, “I had a few drinks…” This is not the first time I’ve met with a couple struggling in their marriage and the issue(s) is somehow linked to, “I had a few... Read More