5 Ways to Make Your Marriage Ridiculously Good in 2018

If you haven’t heard, I’ve written a book. It’s called, The Ridiculously Good Marriage. The book releases nationwide on July 3, 2018. If you want to check it out, you can see it here and even pre-order it. Honestly, pre-ordering the book would be one of the best ways you could show your support for me and the long term reach of the book. But most importantly, I want to offer you practical ways to experience what I’ve written about. So, here are 5 ways to make your marriage Ridiculously Good in 2018. 

  1. Say something kind. Kindness is one of those qualities that often gets lost somewhere as the years pass by. It’s easy to take one another for granted. It’s easy to focus in on what you feel is missing or lacking and that can make you frustrated and resentful. Resentful people have a hard time being kind. I’m all for acts of kindness but I see more often an absence of words of kindness. Think of something kind (and true) you can say to your spouse and say it. 

  2. Plan something special. Life is too busy and unpredictable to hope you will connect on a whim. It takes planning for good marriages to become ridiculously good. Planning is its own investment. And the more invested you feel in your marriage, the more engaged you feel.  Planning forces you to make priority decisions. If you say "yes" to your plans, you say "no" to other options and it always feels like a blessing when you are prioritized. Planning special moments together raises your expectations and makes your spouse feel special.

  3. Surprise with an intimate touch. This may seem obvious, but most couples fall into ruts in marriage and their inmate life is certainly not immune. When you break the norms of your intimate life, it can add a freshness to your marriage. This is especially true if you tend to be the less sexually motivated spouse. Your willingness to initiate and even surprise your spouse with intimate touch could be a connection breakthrough your marriage has been waiting for.

  4. Give the overdue apology. Offenses in marriage can stack up over time. We are all guilty from time to time of letting the cobwebs of conflict exist in the corners of our marriages. If you owe your spouse an apology (even if it is long overdue), give him or her the apology they deserve. This suggestion always generates the reaction, “But they don’t deserve an apology!” Emotionally healthy people understand that an apology is deserved because I have done wrong, regardless of what my spouse has or has not done. If you caused harm (or even think you might have), give your spouse the grace of an apology.

  5. Take care of yourself. It’s easy to forget that your spouse depends on you. All of you. Your body, your mind, your soul, your emotions. Do what it takes to be the best version of you, for your spouse. Get a physical, lose some weight, adopt some healthy habits, get enough sleep, don't drink so much, quit smoking, read a marriage book (for your own sake), go back to school, read the Bible, pray, develop healthy friendships where you can be transparent, get on a budget, get your schedule under control, play with your kids. These are just a few examples, but you get the picture. A better you is one way to do your part to achieve a better, maybe even ridiculously good, marriage.

I hope these 5 truths inspire you to take your marriage to the next level.

What suggestions would you add to this list that could help others discover a ridiculously good marriage?



Posted by Andy Savage at 3:00 PM
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