4/29/13 - PTC_Proverbs 5 - "Never Take Adultery Lightly"
Instruction on Proverbs PTs:
I am excited to jump into the Priority Time Challenge with Chris for the next eight weeks. This would be a great opportunity to start the Priority Time Challenge; all the details are here. I'll be taking us through the book of Proverbs. I LOVE the Proverbs and have made reading Proverbs a regular part of my daily "diet" of God's word for nearly 15 years.
Here's how we will go about it. Take the time to READ the entire chapter for the day straight through. Don't read too fast, the Proverbs are like miniature sermons. One or two sentences really pack a punch. So, read slowly and look for the one or two verses that really stand out to you today. You might select a passage that addresses a challenge you are facing, a need in your life or a growth area. I will share the passage that stands out to me each day and take you through the steps of a Priority Time. I will not post the entire chapter, just the passage that stands out to me. I encourage you to write in your journal, verbatim the passage that stands out to you each day as you log your progress through the steps of a Priority Time.
A Priority Time is a daily unhurried time to read the Word of God to know the God of the Word. Each day we will read a passage of scripture and highpoint a few verses for the purpose of Focused Thinking, Personal Application, Interactive Prayer, and Life Journaling.
- Focused Thinking: Ask the journalistic questions (5 W's and How).
- Personal Application: It turns information into transformation.
- Interactive Prayer: It is personal, private, and precise.
- Life Journaling: It is the process of recording thoughts, evaluating my experiences, and capturing my memories.
15 Drink water from your own cistern,
running water from your own well.
16 Should your springs overflow in the streets,
your streams of water in the public squares?
17 Let them be yours alone,
never to be shared with strangers.
18 May your fountain be blessed,
and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.
19 A loving doe, a graceful deer—
may her breasts satisfy you always,
may you ever be intoxicated with her love.
20 Why, my son, be intoxicated with another man’s wife?
Why embrace the bosom of a wayward woman?
Who? Here we see the fatherly advice given to a young man. This chapter is dedicated to warning the young man (the son) about the dangers of adultery. The other person mentioned here is the adulterous woman. We often think about the man involved in adultery and can sometimes forget that for every man involved there is a woman. However, the emphasis is on the man. We are the ones most responsible for adultery. Men are the ones in control or for that matter, out of control sexually.
What? "Drink water from your own cistern/well" This is as good a statement for the man tempted by adultery as any. Keep your hands to your self! Keep sex within your marriage. I love that God's plan is not to simply avoid sex. His plan is to give the blessing of sex to people through marriage. God's answer to sex is YES! He simply places sex within the contact of a marriage between a man and a woman.
When? Studies have proven that the average man thinks about sex about every 7 seconds. So this truth may be as relevant to a man's life as any most of the time. God's truth is always relevant. This particular truth is extremely relevant for the majority of time for the majority of a man's life. God help me remember that you have given me a great gift in Amanda and never to take it lightly. Help me entrust my desires to Your plan through my marriage.
Where? v16) asks the question that can be understood both figuratively and literally - our "streams" should not flow in the streets. Sexuality is for marriage alone. It is a private matter. It is not for just anyone. God, please help our young men understand this. We need to be very careful not misunderstand the consequences of un-restrained sexual activity. God, please give parents a vision for what it means to teach and train kids to understand the appropriate place sex has in their lives. God, help us reverse the wave of culture that demeans sex and modesty and allow there to be a resurgence of propriety and modesty and God-honoring marriage.
Why? v23) answers this Why? question… For lack of discipline they will die, led astray by their own great folly. This is what happens when we disregard the wisdom and discipline of the Lord. Lack of discipline always takes life. God may I be a man of discipline. Help me bring undisciplined areas of my life under your wisdom and effective systems to protect the values of Your truth.
How? The "how" is defined throughout this passage - v18) "rejoice in the wife of your youth" We should be so involved in our marriages and connected to our wives that over time we rejoice always in the wife of our youth. v19) is a racey verse that depicts the nature of healthy marriage - may her breasts satisfy you always. my you be intoxicated with her love. The HOW of this passage is to lean into your marriage. Give your best to your marriage to receive the best from your marriage. God's greatest blessings come on the other side of great commitment. If marriage isn't as satisfying as you'd like invest more in your marriage - don't run from.
I can never take the temptation to commit adultery lightly. Even with the good marriage Amanda and I have the enemy will always seek to destroy it. I must make this a daily prayer. I must daily "lean in" to my marriage. I can never become lazy in relationships, especially in marriage. God, protect me from that thinking that says, "things are good, I can coast." This is never true about relationships.
Lord, thank you for the constant reminder through the proverbs to protect my marriage. The sheer amount of air time given to the subject in Proverbs says this is a big deal to You. I pray for the men of HP give them a strong conviction for marriage and protecting their families. Give me the ability to teach this in our church and in my family. I pray the five young men you have given me will grow up into godly men who honor you in relationships. Help me remember that among everything i teach my kids God-honoring relationships and marriage may be the most important of all. May my eyes be kept pure today. May i take captive every thought and bring it into obedience to Christ.
I need to protect my mind. There is not a day that goes by that I don't need to guard my eyes. God help me be above the culture today. Help me be mindful of Amanda and her needs today. There is no replacement to being die-hard committed to my marriage and giving it my best, everyday.
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