5/01/13 - PTC_Proverbs 7 - "Stupid Man, Sexy Woman"
Instruction on Proverbs PTs:
I am excited to jump into the Priority Time Challenge with Chris for the next eight weeks. This would be a great opportunity to start the Priority Time Challenge; all the details are here. I'll be taking us through the book of Proverbs. I LOVE the Proverbs and have made reading Proverbs a regular part of my daily "diet" of God's word for nearly 15 years.
Here's how we will go about it. Take the time to READ the entire chapter for the day straight through. Don't read too fast, the Proverbs are like miniature sermons. One or two sentences really pack a punch. So, read slowly and look for the one or two verses that really stand out to you today. You might select a passage that addresses a challenge you are facing, a need in your life or a growth area. I will share the passage that stands out to me each day and take you through the steps of a Priority Time. I will not post the entire chapter, just the passage that stands out to me. I encourage you to write in your journal, verbatim the passage that stands out to you each day as you log your progress through the steps of a Priority Time.
A Priority Time is a daily unhurried time to read the Word of God to know the God of the Word. Each day we will read a passage of scripture and highpoint a few verses for the purpose of Focused Thinking, Personal Application, Interactive Prayer, and Life Journaling.
- Focused Thinking: Ask the journalistic questions (5 W's and How).
- Personal Application: It turns information into transformation.
- Interactive Prayer: It is personal, private, and precise.
- Life Journaling: It is the process of recording thoughts, evaluating my experiences, and capturing my memories.
It is critical today that you read ALL of chapter 7 at least twice. If you are a man, read it a third time. One of the reasons I'm such a fan of a daily reading of Proverbs is because you end up running into Chapter 7 at least once a month. It amazes me how much air time is given to the subject of adultery and sexual sin in the Proverbs. It seems nearly every page contains some warning against adultery as a primary part of the wisdom-effect.
When I create these entries, I'm usually creating them from my hard copy journal - I'm old school. Because of the nature of this proverb this entry may deviate from the form a bit. God has stirred my passion over this today so, I'm off script. I honestly hope you get a little fired up about this too!
From start to finish Proverbs 7 is a continuous thought. This is rare in the Proverbs. I think I'm correct in saying that this is the ONLY chapter in the Proverbs where the entire chapter is devoted to ONE topic. The only close second is the virtuous woman in Proverbs 31 which starts 10 verses in.
Right off the bat we are brought into the wisdom of a father to a son. You see this a lot in Proverbs. I believe this illustrates the need for parents to be intentional to train their children in God's wisdom as well as a picture of God's heart toward us as our heavenly Father. At verse 5 we see where this "father" is headed - "they will keep you from the adulterous woman…" This sets the stage for what Solomon (the writer of Proverbs) does next. He creates an illustration using a fictitious young man. It's as if Solomon is watching all this happen. It's not unlikely that while writing down these pages Solomon actually did see the scene described here.
The young man is described as "among the simple." This is a kind way of saying "stupid man." This is unfortunately the way many men live their lives. We often allow our sinful default to be passivity, laziness and naiveté. The implication of the text is that this attitude is a contributor to the downward spiral of adultery to follow.
Men - we must not allow passivity to rule our lives. We must not be among the simple. Do a quick "bro-check." Who are the "bros" that surround you? What is the comprehensive value of your closest friends. Are you among the simple? Do your friends make you stronger or weaker, more foolish or more wise? This young man was gaining no help from his friends. He actually became a target for sin because of his passivity, laziness and naiveté. God, please convict men to be more "head's up" regarding sin, especially sexual sin. Rebuke the passivity in us. Make us clear-headed and wise.
He did not guard his path. He walked in her direction. When you walk toward expect verse 10 to happen to you, "Then out came a woman to meet him." The opportunity will always come to you. When you walk in the direction of sin, sin is faithful to meet you there. Men, you know where to find sin. Much of purity is found by simply not going down that road. We must be intentional not to frequent those places/environments that lead us to sin's door. Every man knows what that path is - perhaps its checking email late at night leading to porn or visiting that old bar where you know you will run into the old crowd or that phone number you still haven't deleted from your phone. Done be naive. Down that road is where we meet…her.
Verses 10-13 describe this sexy woman. She is bold and aggressive. She is "unruly and defiant." She has made up her mind to sin. She has even dressed the part. Is the contrast of the stupid man and the sexy woman not obvious! He is passive, she is aggressive. He was indecisive, she was decisive. Women, as you read this, please don't think this proverb is all about the men. There is much here to challenge you! This woman was not content with her life. She went out seeking to break her vow to her husband. She dressed the part. She was dressed like a prostitute. This says something about the issue of modesty in our culture today.
Women, please re-think your definition of modesty. I know, most of you are not heat-seeking missiles of adultery like we read here, BUT many of you contribute to the adultery of the mind (as Jesus taught) by baiting the men in your life to lust with your lack of modesty. There is NO excuse for a man to lust in his heart, likewise there is NO excuse for a woman to think her modesty is "no big deal." This is one way you can show love to your brothers in Christ. The same is true of the way you speak and act. If you come off "unruly and defiant" you send a message (albeit unintentional) of intrigue that entices men to desire sin. As much as men should be heads up and decisive about their purity, likewise women should be about the image they portray.
In the end, we see this foolish man go down. Like an ox to the slaughter or a deer in a noose or a bird in a cage he is trapped in sin. The end is not good. Far too many families are destroyed by adultery and sexual sin. Please allow these words of wisdom to challenge you to stay close to God. To heed His wisdom and stay away from adultery.
God, I pray that this simple blog entry will serve as an altar for men and women to re-commit to purity. I pray that those secretive ways we inch toward sin would be sacrificed on this altar today. I pray that the lies women believe about their bodies and their beauty will be broken and a new embrace of public modesty will emerge. I pray that men will rise up and seek the accountability of strong male friends to spur them on toward righteousness. I pray that a renewal of purity will produce a renewal of excitement in marriages. God awaken marriages stricken with boredom. Break the patterns of husbands and wives who are just living together instead of pursuing intimate and exciting marriage. Guard the purity of our children, especially in the middle school and high school years. I pray that my 5 boys will grow up wise. Keep them from stupidity. May my boys always be able to look at me as the standard bearer of God's plan for purity. Thank you most of all for the grace we have in Jesus. None of us is perfect, we need the grace of Jesus to give us second chances to recommit to purity. May we follow you fully trusting in your goodness.
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