Yesterday, I delivered part 2 of the Hero series at
. This series is directed toward men to “answer the call of
Biblical manhood.” The title of the message was “Speak Life” which is the first
of five character traits men should address to become the heroes God desires.
The primary text we looked at was Ephesians 4:29, which says, “Do
not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful
for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who
Every man struggles with his speech.
That being said, we need to go back to God’s plan and accept His standard.
Frankly, there are some things we don’t need to say. This passage of scripture
makes God’s standard for our speech abundantly clear, “do not let ANY
unwholesome talk come out of our mouths…” I know this is an intimidating
standard but one we must accept if we are to take on Biblical manhood. There
are three kinds of “unwholesome talk” we need to put a stop to in our lives.
First is malicious speech. This is
communicating with the intent to harm another directly or indirectly. This is
everything from downright meanness to gossip. No matter how hard we try to stop
it we can easily slip into malicious speech. I hear Christians speak
maliciously all the time, especially when it involves someone that seems to
deserve it, from a co-worker to a political figure. We must stop the malicious
Second is crude speech. This is communication that
is intentionally offensive, profane or morally devoid. Men, we are all guilty
here! Crude speech is unfitting for a godly man. A man told me once that he
felt using profanity gave him more authority. The reality is true authority
does not require profanity or crudity. Your authority is always based on your
character. Profanity is a cheap and flimsy prop for a weak and wanting
character. Men, make the decision to avoid profane words and crude jokes.
Remember, your words will become the vocabulary of your children.
The final type of “unwholesome talk” we need to
stop is arrogant speech. This is communication that promotes self-interest by
pride or by pity. We men often turn to prideful speech. We show our pride in everything
from bragging about our bench press max to our income level. We love to promote
how good we are! Remember, whenever we turn to prideful speech you are
beginning to take credit for something good that God has done. Pride is often a
failure to recognize God’s work. On the flip side, we can slip into pity by whining
or complaining just as easily. Men, when we whine and complain, especially
around our wives and children, we give them a reason to distrust us as the
leaders in our homes.
Men, I hope this will challenge you to consider the
power of your words. Your speech will create a lasting impression on the people
closest to you. Be diligent to accept God’s standard and be a Hero in your
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