In every marriage there is a secret knowledge. Well, maybe not so
secret, but a knowledge that you have about your spouse. Sure, maybe a
few others know it, but it's a knowledge that carries power in your
relationship. I call it the "one thing." There is one thing your spouse
loves. This one thing could be anything, but it is specific to your
spouse, and it is probably not the same thing for both of you.
Perhaps it's having dinner in a special restaurant, a surprise gift
for no reason or recognizing their accomplishments. The list could go
on and on.
What is your spouse's "one thing?" The funny thing is, you don't
have to think really hard - you already know what it is! Here's the
challenge: do it! Do the one thing. Go out of your way to bless your
spouse. You know one thing for sure, they will love it. So often in
marriage we do things because we hope to get something in return. This
is not God's plan for marriage. God wants us to learn that the path to
a healthy marriage is paved with giving; no strings attached.
Why do you hesitate to bless your spouse? Why would you not want
to do the "one thing?" I assure you that nearly every answer you come
up with for avoiding this kind of giving is purely selfish on your
part. Maybe you are afraid they will expect more? Maybe you fear not
being recognized or rewarded for what you've done? Maybe you are simply
waiting for your spouse to do it first and then you will give in return?
Lay your selfishness aside and do the "one thing" this week, if
possible. Do it more than once if possible. Go out of your way to bless
and honor your spouse!
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