Marriage is a ridiculous idea. The idea that two selfish people can make love work is frankly absurd. The core issue in marriage is the simple fact that you are selfish, and you are married, will marry or were married to a selfish person. What would you want to see change in your marriage? I don't assume that everyone's marriage is hanging by a thread; however, I know lots of people with very boring and mediocre marriages, and that is bad enough!
Do you believe it is possible for you to have a great marriage? What would it be worth to you? Would you be willing to do something ridiculous?
This is the premise of a series of talks I'm giving at Highpoint Church over the next few weeks. I believe EVERY marriage has room to improve. To get there we have to decide who we're following. By default most of us follow the examples around us. Our parents, friends and even the marriages featured in media. The problem is most of these examples tend to lead us to fight to be happy. I'm not against being happy, but if my happiness is at all tied to my selfishness (which it is), then by definition, my quest for happiness fights against the health of my marriage. Make sense?
God invented marriage. By creative right, He alone knows knows what it takes to make it work. He alone knows what it takes for us to have the kind of marriage we all desperately want. And that's the rub. Having a great marriage is really about following God instead of the selfish quest for personal happiness. Trust me, I know the fear that lives here. This would mean risking not getting what I want, believing that God knows what is best for me. It's a big risk. It's ridiculous. And it's the only way to find ultimate satisfaction in marriage.
I hope you will be able to join us for this series. If you aren't able to come in person, the videos will be posted here. Consider this my personal invitation for you to move toward the marriage God has for you! Please go one extra step and send this blog entry to one friend you know that would benefit from this series. Thanks!
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